After listening to Evangelist Le Fridge’s radio program (INSPIRED to go HIGHER on KPRO1570AM–Inland Empire) on LOVE a few weeks ago and reading DoQuoi Greene’s (aka “The Duke”) blog post, “I Really Want the Chance to Love You” (May 29, 2013), I was inspired to write this post on LOVE:
As Evangelist Le Fridge shared on her program, the Bible portrays four types of love, eros, storge, philia and agape:
Eros is Greek for sensual. This is the physical love between a husband and a wife and involves sexual relations to bond spiritually and emotionally. (Think Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden.) The Book of Song of Solomon portrays this type of physical love.
Storge (pronounced STOR-jay) is the Greek word for family. This love is portrayed as a very strong love–the strong bond–between family, sisters and brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc., and can be seen in the love that Abraham had for his sons (especially Joseph), the strong love that Abraham had for his nephew Lot, and the strong love that Ruth had for Naomi.
Philia is the Greek word for brotherly love (as in Philiadelphia–the city of brotherly love). This type of love represents the bond between a close friend or friends. In the Bible, we see this type of love between David and Absalom. It also represents a benevolent type of love–when a person commits a random act of kindness, for no apparent reason, out of the goodness of their heart–not wanting anything in return.
Agape love–a divine love, is the highest of all the loves. Christ showed this type of love to the world in John 3:16, when he gave his life for the world (you and me). This type of love is exemplified in 1 Corinthians–Chapter 13:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
As The Duke points out in his post,
At the end of the day, everyone wants to be loved by somebody! Most people want to feel love and want to be loved so much by someone until you feel like you’re the most important person in that person’s world.
(This brought to mind Mary J. Blidge’s early 1990s song “Real Love,” wherein Ms. Blidge sings about looking for a “real” love.)
The way I see it, everyone does experience real love in one form or another–storge, philia or eros. Real love forms a strong bond, whether it is a strong bond between family members (relatives) or a strong bond between a husband or wife.
We all have some type of real love in our lives, whether we recognize it or not. It’s important that we recognize and appreciate and nurture the love that we already have in our lives. God is love; therefore, all love is ordained by God.
This tweet captures the essence of what I am talking about:
Too many of us are ignoring the real love that God has blessed us with to enrich and fortify our lives because the world says being married is supposed to be the ultimate goal in life. (And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high–even in the church.) As Believers, we should question everything the world says, does or promotes. What does Jesus have to say about the matter? In this case, what does Jesus have to say about marriage?
I am going to go against the grain right here and suggest that while every Believer is guaranteed unconditional–agape–love from God, not everyone is guaranteed the eros type of love. You can’t “find” eros love, if God has not ordained it for you. The truth of the matter is that real love comes from God (and he may bless you with eros love, or he may not). Therefore, we should not neglect or reject other types of love solely for the eros type of love because, the truth be told, all of us are not destined to be married.
In Matthew 19:10, when the disciplines said, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry,” Jesus said:
‘Only those whom God helps’ Mathew 19:11
This scripture suggests that “God helps” those who are NOT married, which is the exact opposite of what the world teaches–you are not more blessed if you are married. Remember, the Apostle Paul and Jesus were not married.
And yes, as a single person, you can still respect the institution of marriage; Jesus was single and he upheld the institution of marriage.
We walk by faith,